This week was challenging. I had a mountain of work to get through and a presentation to give on Friday. I got through it, but not with much confidence. I learned a lot, though. One lesson? Stop taking on so much.
I almost didn’t write this post this week. But, there were a few posts that I felt needed recognition and recommendation. I could not start the next week without giving them props.
1. The Brock Turner Victim’s Statement to Her Attacker – BuzzFeed News
You can read this on a number of news sites. I don’t care which one you go to, but I do care whether or not you read it. Read it. It’s thoughtful, compelling, unwavering, smart, and necessary. There’s a lot more I could say, and I could break down it’s importance for the cultural milieu, but I think the letter says a lot more than I could – and does a better job than I ever could.
2. The Safety Cost of Being a Girl – Mel from Broke Girl Rich for Blonde & Balanced
Oh, man, do I know this all too well. I have to constantly remind the [very considerate] men in my life that I make a lot of choices based solely on the predicament of being a woman in this world. Once, when I suggested that poor parking in a university neighborhood might keep people away from some of the arts events at a local venue, a man told me to be a part of the solution. I was stunned as he told me to call the police to escort me from my car to the venue, and then from the venue to my car. Because that’s what police do, right? And there’s enough of them to do that for every woman in the city who wants to attend events after dark, right? I ended my part of the argument with, “Well, my solution, like so many other women, is to just not show up.” We forgo events. We pay more for housing in safer neighborhoods – if we are able. I pay for roadside assistance because I will not rely on the help of strangers, not because they may be incompetent, but because as a woman, I have to be suspicious. I have to be constantly on guard. And that can cost money, too.
3. Why We Don’t Live By the 4% Commandment – The Resume Gap
This is amazing. My friend over at Our Next Life threw down the challenge to bust the current gospel of early retirement, and The Resume Gap just nailed it. There’s no right way to become financially independent, no matter what some sites say. You can use real estate. You can use index funds. You can save your money in a sock. It’s personal, and you’ll choose what works for you. The 4% rule works for some. It may not work for you, and that’s okay.
4. A $14 Robbery Ruined My Neighborhood – She Picks Up Pennies
This is an incredibly intimate portrait of a certain type of privilege that I recognized immediately, because it’s very much the type of privilege in which I grew up. My stomach turned a couple of times reading this – you’ll probably know when you read it. The awareness and honesty in this post should be highly appreciated.
5. 5 Uncomfortable Money Questions to Ask Your Aging Parents – The Penny Hoarder
I don’t like to think about this often, although when my mother tells me she’s working in her home office, I always ask her, “Please put the will somewhere that I can find it.” That’s about all I can ask for. I just do not like to think about anything else. However, I am creating a money binder this summer, and I may ask my mother to make one along with me. It just seems reasonable, and a thoughtful gesture for my loved ones.
What did you read that resonated?